I really hesitated to write this post. First of all, who really cares what my goals are besides me? This is the time of year that everyone is thinking about all the things they can improve. I mean, do I really need to add to that nonsense?
Secondly, Jan 1st has so much hype and much pressure that comes along with it. We all know what normally happens, we get started with a bang on January 1st with “I’m no longer yelling at my kids.” Fast forward to February 14th, and I’m making Mommy Dearest look like Mother Theresa I’m screaming so loud.
I asked myself a few years ago, why does this happen? I certainly don’t want to be the type of person that is always yelling at my kids or doesn’t follow through with my promises.
I’ll save you all the stories and heartache it took me to get here but what I have learned is that goals that aren’t attached to a strong and emotional reason will fall away. Why? Because there’s no compelling reason to actually do them.
Honestly, most of us are just lazy and stuck in our old habits, myself included. For example, having a goal of a clean home is great but at the end of the day I’m tired and really want to watch Narcos on Netflix. However, keeping a beautifully, organized home to free up my creativity and time so I can focus on my goals is way more compelling.
Losing weight is not specific, but creating radiant health so that I can I live a long enough to love my family and experience all the juiciness of life. Sign me up!
The more you connect with the emotional state you will feel once the goal has been accomplished, the better.
I wanted to share with you guys a few intentions that I have for myself in 2019. Always remember, there is really nothing special about January. Never feel like you are behind of that it’s too late. Just make a plan and start!
Love the people in my life WELL
If you matter to me this year, you are going to know. I’m going to be less about my phone and more about in-person connection. I’m planning more one and one dates with my kids. This week I’ve started overloading them with praise at even the smallest actions. Too often I focus on all the things that I believe they need to change, so this year I’m going to make it an intention to focus on loving the person that they are. The one that stands right before me imperfections and all. Look out friends, I’m coming for you too!
WHY – I truly want the people in my life to know how special they are to me and that they matter. I want my kids to remember me as someone who loved them unconditionally. Plus, how yummy is that love state ya’ll?
Hang out with more people who are creating truly amazing things
I believe we are the average of the 5 people we hang out with the most. I’ve already got an 8 and 6 year old so I need to pull up my average. I have so many people I admire in my social circle for the things that they are creating in the world and this year I plan to reach out to them.
WHY– I have so many things I want to create. Why waste time with people that don’t have the same values when it only serves to bring down my average? Plus being around people doing greater things will encourage me to step up as well. Peer pressure at it’s finest.
Invest more in my myself and my personal growth
I’ve learned that this is really the holy grail of my happiness for me. If I’m not growing, I’m stagnant, and I hate being stagnant. I love to be challenged and to learn new ideas and concepts.
WHY – If I can’t invest in myself what good am I to my friends, family, and to the world? I’ve never once regretted money that I’ve spent on myself or my growth. I learned early on that this was important for me. Since my kids were babies I’ve received my degree in spiritual psychology, attended conferences, and have always had coaches to hold me accountable. I see this as a non-negotiable for my wellbeing.
Writing not only helps me create content but it actually keeps me sane. It helps me sort through issues and creates breakthroughs if I’m stuck with a problem. There’s a higher intelligence activated when we write by hand and not on a computer, so I’m going to try and do more handwriting this year.
WHY – this is twofold. Writing unlocks my creativity and it also serves to keep me in a mentally healthy state so I’m able to achieve some of my other goals for the year.
This has been a hard one for me these past few years because of my schedule with the kids. Yet, gosh does it light me up when I do it. I really intend to make more time for this and plan to make this a larger part of my year in 2019!
WHY – Simply put, I love it. I truly light up and it challenges me.
What about you guys? Do you struggle with new years resolutions and goals? Is there something you have been wanting to create but haven’t had the courage to try? I encourage you to try this exercise and think about your reasons. Please let me know how it goes!