Winter vacations are upon us as we are all craving some fun in the sun. One of my favorite things about going on a trip to the beach is finding the perfect suit to take along with me. I always like to bring a good mix of bikinis and one pieces because I never know how I am going to feel once I get there. Recently, I rounded up some great options for a family (or not) spring break trip to the beach. I’m particularly obsessed with the plunging leopard one piece, as you guys know I love me some cheetah print. The black options are always a good idea for the end of the trip after you’ve been indulging in margaritas and chips and salsa for a week. The bikini’s I chose are high waisted for an ultra flattering fit. I hope you enjoy my selections!
This past week I sat down with Anna to ask her a few questions about what she thought about my job. As far as mom’s (and jobs) go, I am pretty non-traditional and I think it’s funny to hear her perspective. I’ve had this idea for awhile because anytime we talk she surprises me with her adult thinking. It was such a cute exercise and it’s something that we both really enjoyed. I had some questions in mind but as we were talking I changed some of them to do follow ups. I recommend doing it with your kids because it was such a cute moment of connection for us. And yes, sometimes I yell. Needless to say, I will be doing more girl time and am definitely booking a hip hop class for us to take together!
What are my best qualities?
You’re funny, you’re a good mom and you’re cool.
Why do you think I’m cool ?
Because you always just like go with the flow and you just find your way.
What do you think I do for work?
You post instagram videos and instagram stuff and you get paid for it. And you’re a blogger!
What do you think of my job?
It’s interesting because it’s not a traditional job, it’s like different.
What is your favorite thing to do with me?
Take pictures and hang out.
What is one thing you would like to do with me?
Go to Paris.
What do you wish you could change about me?
Sometimes you yell!
Do you like me blonde or redheaded?
Blonde, because it’s the original you and it’s not dye and it’s your original self!
What do you think is the best part about being a girl?
You’re not always as reckless as boys, you wear pretty stuff and you’re not as gross as boys.
What is your first memory of me?
Us cooking together and getting really messy.
What is your most favorite trip we took together?
When we went to Aspen in 2014.
What do you wish we could do more of together?
Girl time, hip hop class.
How cute is she? I guess I’ll be taking a trip to Paris in the near future. I loved this idea for Anna and I can’t wait to do it with Max. I think I’ll make this a yearly tradition and record their answers in a book and give it to them when they go to college. I never finished their baby books so it’s the least I can do.
Real talk guys. How hard is it to put your kids to bed? If it’s easy stop reading and please never contact me again. At my home, it can range anywhere from a minor annoyance to a DEFCON 10 situation. Most of the time it’s somewhere in the middle, but I can tell you one thing: I’m always happy when it’s over. It’s the time that I finally get to myself. Sometimes, I don’t even know what to do with myself. Should I read? Learn a new language? Fall asleep on the couch watching Netflix? The possibilities seem endless. Most of the time I end up finishing work emails that I left by the wayside or read a book that I have been meaning to catch up on. Recently, TruMoo has my heart.
One thing I love to do is treat myself. Nothing crazy. I mean if it’s crazy that’s ok too. But I love a little something to celebrate the day and the transition to the day when it’s all about me. If even just for a sip. I love chocolate. Dark chocolate, wine, and no one touching me is the motherhood trifecta of perfection. When TruMoo asked me to try their new “adult ” milk beverages I was so excited. I love the idea of taking something that normally belong’s to my kids and making it mine. Maybe I’ll talk to my therapist about that one?
I came up with a few steps to treating yourself guilt free :
Put those suckers down. Just do it. You’ve had them all day and now it’s time to stop thinking about them for at least 30 min. You can worry about their future later.
Change into something comfortable. Sweatpants if you’re into that sort of thing. I prefer fancy nighties cause I’M WORTH IT!
Put on some relaxing music.
Grab a book or cue up Netflix.
Pour a glass of your favorite TruMoo flavor, or better yet try all of them and make it like a little wine flight (available at Target or locate your store here ).
Wake up happy that you didn’t down a half bottle of wine but still managed to feel like the bomb ass mom that you are!
What do you do when your only daughter turns 9 and she is not an easy one to please? Your rent a suite at the Four Seasons and throw a party, duh! Now before you go off and judge me for my seemingly extravagant choice let me tell you about last year. I hosted 12 8 year old ( GREMLINS ) at my home and they completely destroyed it. You guys it was nuts! At one point when there was nothing else to mess up, they started shredding the decorations into tiny pieces. It was like a White Snake pre-party!
Needless to say, I vowed to never have a kid party at my house again. It took a full year to get over the trauma so when I was thinking of ideas for this year, no cleaning and no cooking was key!
A few weeks before I was having lunch with a girlfriend and she asked me how the planning was going. Planning? I thought. What’s that? She offered to help me and this was one of the best decisions I ever made. She recently formed a company called Fetti and Fiz that specializes in kid and adult parties!
One of the reasons we chose the Four Seasons was because of its amazing pool! The kids had an absolute blast swimming in the huge pool and the heated room felt heavenly in the frigid Chicago winter. After the girls swam they took quick showers in the spa, put on robes and headed up to the room for pizza and games!
One of the games that made laugh was ” Spin the bottle.” Nail polish bottles, that is. Each girl would take a turn and whatever color it landed on she had to paint one fingernail that color. Nevermind that my daughter’s toes ended up looking she stuck them in a meat grinder at the end of the night.
The party favors were my favorite. How cute are the personalized eye-masks and pillow cases?
The highlight of the night was definitely the ice cream cart that came to the room. Each child got to make their own sundae. Of course, I had to have a scoop, or 3, of ice cream myself.
Overall I was so impressed with the service at the Four Season’s and by Fetti and Fiz. The combination of the two made it, dare I say it, enjoyable for me! I’m curious to know your thoughts on throwing your kid’s birthdays? Is it something you enjoy or dread or a little of both? Let me know in the comments!
I really hesitated to write this post. First of all, who really cares what my goals are besides me? This is the time of year that everyone is thinking about all the things they can improve. I mean, do I really need to add to that nonsense?
Secondly, Jan 1st has so much hype and much pressure that comes along with it. We all know what normally happens, we get started with a bang on January 1st with “I’m no longer yelling at my kids.” Fast forward to February 14th, and I’m making Mommy Dearest look like Mother Theresa I’m screaming so loud.
I asked myself a few years ago, why does this happen? I certainly don’t want to be the type of person that is always yelling at my kids or doesn’t follow through with my promises.
I’ll save you all the stories and heartache it took me to get here but what I have learned is that goals that aren’t attached to a strong and emotional reason will fall away. Why? Because there’s no compelling reason to actually do them.
Honestly, most of us are just lazy and stuck in our old habits, myself included. For example, having a goal of a clean home is great but at the end of the day I’m tired and really want to watch Narcos on Netflix. However, keeping a beautifully, organized home to free up my creativity and time so I can focus on my goals is way more compelling.
Losing weight is not specific, but creating radiant health so that I can I live a long enough to love my family and experience all the juiciness of life. Sign me up!
The more you connect with the emotional state you will feel once the goal has been accomplished, the better.
I wanted to share with you guys a few intentions that I have for myself in 2019. Always remember, there is really nothing special about January. Never feel like you are behind of that it’s too late. Just make a plan and start!
Love the people in my life WELL
If you matter to me this year, you are going to know. I’m going to be less about my phone and more about in-person connection. I’m planning more one and one dates with my kids. This week I’ve started overloading them with praise at even the smallest actions. Too often I focus on all the things that I believe they need to change, so this year I’m going to make it an intention to focus on loving the person that they are. The one that stands right before me imperfections and all. Look out friends, I’m coming for you too!
WHY – I truly want the people in my life to know how special they are to me and that they matter. I want my kids to remember me as someone who loved them unconditionally. Plus, how yummy is that love state ya’ll?
Hang out with more people who are creating truly amazing things
I believe we are the average of the 5 people we hang out with the most. I’ve already got an 8 and 6 year old so I need to pull up my average. I have so many people I admire in my social circle for the things that they are creating in the world and this year I plan to reach out to them.
WHY– I have so many things I want to create. Why waste time with people that don’t have the same values when it only serves to bring down my average? Plus being around people doing greater things will encourage me to step up as well. Peer pressure at it’s finest.
Invest more in my myself and my personal growth
I’ve learned that this is really the holy grail of my happiness for me. If I’m not growing, I’m stagnant, and I hate being stagnant. I love to be challenged and to learn new ideas and concepts.
WHY – If I can’t invest in myself what good am I to my friends, family, and to the world? I’ve never once regretted money that I’ve spent on myself or my growth. I learned early on that this was important for me. Since my kids were babies I’ve received my degree in spiritual psychology, attended conferences, and have always had coaches to hold me accountable. I see this as a non-negotiable for my wellbeing.
Writing not only helps me create content but it actually keeps me sane. It helps me sort through issues and creates breakthroughs if I’m stuck with a problem. There’s a higher intelligence activated when we write by hand and not on a computer, so I’m going to try and do more handwriting this year.
WHY – this is twofold. Writing unlocks my creativity and it also serves to keep me in a mentally healthy state so I’m able to achieve some of my other goals for the year.
This has been a hard one for me these past few years because of my schedule with the kids. Yet, gosh does it light me up when I do it. I really intend to make more time for this and plan to make this a larger part of my year in 2019!
WHY – Simply put, I love it. I truly light up and it challenges me.
What about you guys? Do you struggle with new years resolutions and goals? Is there something you have been wanting to create but haven’t had the courage to try? I encourage you to try this exercise and think about your reasons. Please let me know how it goes!