Today I introduce to you Katya Libin, co-founder of Heymama. Heymama is part cool club, part think-thank and is the premier source of community, inspiration, career intel, and support for modern working mothers who hustle to make things happen. I was so excited to learn more about what makes Katya tick and I really enjoyed reading her answers. I know you will love her as much as I do!
1.What is the best thing about being a mom?
The snuggles. Hands down.
2. What is the hardest thing about being a mom?
The attitude. It’s next level at 7 years old. Those eye rolls go so high you think they’re in the back of their heads.
3. What habit do you hope to pass down to your kids?
Confidence. Dreaming big. Failing and trying again.
4. What habit do you hope to not pass down to your kids?
Not putting things away right after I use them! #sorrymom
5. How have you changed since being a mom?
I’ve slowed down. I cherish and crave home, routine and quiet. I’m endlessly more patient, and more organized than ever before.
6. What’s the best piece of advice given to you?
Comparison is the thief of joy.
7. What are three essentials you need every day?
Great question! My phone, sad but true. My cold brew every morning! Music!
8. What late night food do you crave?
Pasta, pizza, both on a good night. 😉
9. What do you do to relax?
I will sound like a broken record here but I journal, I meditate, I mask. I listen to podcasts. I turn my phone on airplane mode and stare at raindrops. I pay attention to small details I’m too busy to notice. I dance. I get massages… I’m actually trying to watch more TV, ha!
10. How has motherhood changed your career?
It is my career. I never would have had HEYMAMA if I didn’t have Lili and feel compelled to start a community for mamas like me.
11. 3 words to describe yourself.
Kind, funny, determined.
12. How has your style changed since becoming a mother?
I think I prioritize comfy footwear above all else. But other than that… it’s fairly similar! I love to play around and have fun with fashion… that hasn’t really changed. I might have slowly been going more classic and practical than before. I’d buy some very random attire.
13. What traits bug you the most in other mothers?
I try not to get bugged by other peoples choices but I’d say the ones that rsvp to a birthday party and then not show up. #happened
14. What 3 things in your bag you couldn’t live without?
Lipgloss // lip something… my Trestique glow stick.. business cards because you never know who you meet.
15.Best advice you could give a mom with young kids?
It gets so much easier. Breathe baby.
16. If your life had theme music, what would it be?
Probably a combination of Jay Z and Beyonce. TBH.
17. What’s your secret to being a dope ass mom?
Never forget to make time to have fun!!!!
18. Nanny, hairstylist or chef? You can only have one!
Chef, hands down, followed by a lovely human who can keep the house looking FRESH.
19. What does success look like to you in parenting?
Raising an independent kind and giving human who is compassionate to others, not spoiled and understands the value of family.
20. Kill, Fuck or Marry – Justin Timberlake, Channing Tatum, Ryan Gosling
Ryan Gosling Fuck (of course I start with the best!), Justin, marry. Channing Kill. Sorry!! never did it for me.
21. How do you maintain your identity while still being someone’s mom?
I try not to let motherhood define all of me. It’s a huge part, but it’s not 100% of me. I make sure to have friends of all different ages, who do and don’t have kids, and continue to fill my live with some version of spontaneity and travel.
22. How has your relationship changed with your own mother since becoming a mom
It’s both gotten more challenging and gotten better. Sometimes I cringe at the things she does and says that resonate with her and what’s important, and other times I just step back in awe because I know she’s right.
23. Do you have a favorite child?
The one and only I have!!
24. What’s your opinion on screen time?
Weekends only. Never on weekdays. no phone, no ipad, no tv. We just don’t watch a lot of it in our home.
25. What’s one way you hope to make an impact on your kids?
By showing her that what you envision is what you will create.
26. If you could change one thing about your child’s personality what would it be and why?
When she gets cranky it takes a bit to shake it off. I’m like “cmon it’s not that big of a deal!! Let’s be happy baby! Lili: eye roll and into the room with epic long sigh!”
27. How has your relationship changed with your higher power since having kids?
Tremendously. Not because of having kids but because I naturally went through a big spiritual shift.
28. How has having kids affected your relationship with your partner?
I am single and ready to mingle. 😉
29. What would you be doing if you didn’t have kids?
Traveling the world, running some sort of business from Bali, because why the hell not, and possibly still stuck in corporate America, not being happy.
30. Do you experience mom guilt? How do you deal with it?
Not very often but sometimes when I get the “you’re always on your phone” convo, it hurts. Of course, they catch you right when you look at it!
31. If you could change one thing about how society views mother’s, what would it be?
That we’re somehow in someway any less efficient, effective, investable, powerful and capable than men.
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