The first time I was introduced to Dana Gordon was when I was staying at a hotel in Florida. She was having a trunk show in the hotel gift shop and I loved her jewelry. I bought my first pair of her earrings. Fast forward to a few years later and I met her at a dinner with mutual friends. I always wanted to reach out to interview her, but I was a little intimidated because I wasn’t sure what she was going to say. I’m so glad I finally decided to reach out to her and when we sat down to talk to it was instant camaraderie. I loved reading her thoughts on running a business and motherhood, and I know you will too. I hope after reading this you are encouraged to reach out to people who you want to get to know!
1.What is the best thing about being a mom?
The love you give and the love you get. After a long day at work, there is nothing better than coming home to my kids and seeing them at the back door smiling and jumping up and down to see me. The love is so intense and so sweet.
2. What is the hardest thing about being a mom?
The “balance”. I hate when people say managing it all because its a daily struggle we all share. I think balancing all the different parts of yourself as a wife, daughter, sister, friend, co-worker, boss, and mom is the hardest part of being a mom.
3. What habit do you hope to pass down to your kids?
Honesty. To know me is to love me. I am honest and truthful in every way.
4. What habit do you hope to not pass down to your kids?
Procrastination! Sometimes I wait till the last minute to get things done.
5. How have you changed since being a mom?
I value my time differently. Every minute I do something that doesn’t hold value is less time with my family and for myself.
6. What’s the best piece of advice given to you?
Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, and others make it happen.
7. What are three essentials you need every day?
My Jan Marini face wash, my kids and my rings
8. What late night food do you crave?
A Chicago Style Hot Dog!
9. What do you do to relax?
I am really awful at relaxing. I love work and I love to be connected so I’m typically close to my phone and in communication with someone. That being said, I find the best time for me to relax is a 17 hour flight to India where I’m unplugged from work, enjoying champagne and catching up on movies and tv shows.
10. How has motherhood changed your career?
Motherhood has made me value my career and my time. I was extremely hard working before and never stopped. Becoming a mom has made me take more time to stop and enjoy the stages of life my kids are in. As I grow Dana Rebecca Designs, I am constantly stopping to think will my girls be proud of the business we have built? Will they empower and encourage women to celebrate their life and milestones? I think about them a lot as I make decisions and hope one day they are part of the brand.
11. 3 words to describe yourself?
Authentic, loving and honest
12. How has your style changed since becoming a mother?
I think my style has evolved. I have a more casual and carefree style that has only become more simplified with kids. But nothing will stop me from taking off my sneakers to swap for a pair of heels at work or at night.
13. What traits bug you the most in other mothers?
Judgement! We need to support one another more and have each other’s backs. We are all doing the best we can and there are more than right ways to raise a happy, healthy child.
14. What 3 things in your bag you couldn’t live without?
Beauty Counter lip gloss, Raw Rev bars, and AirPods.
15.Best advice you could give a mom with young kids?
It is impossible to do it all and balance is not attainable. I suggest starting each day with a positive attitude that you can find a balance that works for you. For me, spending either the morning or the night with my girls gives me peace. If I am able to wake up with them and start the day, I feel accomplished. Unfortunately, there are times, I don’t wake up with them or put them to bed but I make sure to start the next day fresh and positive. Mom guilt is a real thing and it can really wear you down so my advice is to start fresh daily and find what balance means for you. Perfect balance is unrealistic.
16. What’s your secret to being a dope ass mom?
Being real and honest about it. I am 100% certain I am better being a working mom than a stay at home mom. I also have acknowledged that the support you have as a mom is the greatest asset to being a dope ass mom!
17. Nanny, hairstylist or chef? You can only have one live in
NANNY who does hair??
18. What does success look like to you in parenting?
Being free of the pressure to be perfect. I am certainly not a perfect mom but I think to be a successful parent is to be okay with making mistakes and learning from them. Import to be consistent but it’s ok not to be perfect. Parenting is hard, there are so many rules but no guidebook.
19. Kill, Fuck or Marry – Justin Timberlake, Channing Tatum, Ryan Gosling
Kill Channing, Fuck Ryan and Marry Justin
20. How do you maintain your identity while still being someone’s mom?
Finding time to be me. I know I’m a mom and so many other things but finding time to be me and me alone is very important. I think when I am down as a person, I fail as a mom. So keeping myself happy and finding time for self-care or time alone is paramount.
21. How has your relationship changed with your own mother since becoming a mom?
YES! Within hours of having my oldest child, I called my mom hysterically crying and apologized for everything I had ever done to her. I wanted her to know that I was grateful for her unconditional support and loved her so much. I remember her laughing and reminding me that my child was only a few hours old but I just could see the future days that my daughter would take me for granted. My mom is the most incredible grandma, mom, friend, and wife. I aspire to be exactly like her because she is the ultimate mom. I hope my girls love me the way I love my mom.
22. Do you have a favorite child?
Nope but sometimes it depends on the day and depends on whose snuggling me the most and not whining. HA!
23. What’s your opinion on screen time?
No judgment here. Guilty of using it often.
24. What’s one way you hope to make an impact on your kids?
I hope they get my work ethic, my hustle, and appreciation for family. I hope I inspire them to be better every single day and dream big.
25. How has your relationship changed with your higher power since having kids?
I fully accept that everything happens for a reason and there’s a plan. Who has the plan is less important than their being a plan. After suffering two miscarriages and questioning the process but then having healthy kids, I am blessed to believe in something greater.
26. How has having kids affected your relationship with your partner?
I’ve fallen deeper in love with my husband watching him become a father. I remember the first few months were hard but once my girls were a bit older and more active he stepped into fatherhood and is truthfully the best dad. I am in awe of how incredible he is with them and how he can do everything independently and so easily. Thanks 🙂