You know those women that are so beautiful, smart and driven you’re constantly like how are they pulling it off and still able to be a good mom? Well, folks, meet Monika Dixon. I was first introduced to Monika through a mutual friend and was immediately in awe and had to know more. Over the past couple of years I have gotten to know her more and what stands out to me is her entrepreneurial spirit. She’s the owner of MDPR, a single mother of two and has such a kind spirit. She truly is a boss! I know you will love her as much as do after getting to know her a bit more through our interview!
1. What is the best thing about being a mom?
Seeing how your love and guidance helps your children to courageously develop their personalities – their mannerisms, quirks, likes and dislikes. Life affords no greater responsibility, no greater privilege than raising the next generation. What a child doesn’t receive they can seldom later give.
2.What is the hardest thing about being a mom?
I always worry about my children. Whether they are at school, on a playdate, or standing right next to me, I am constantly worrying about them! One of my favorite quotes is, “Being a Mother means that your heart is no longer yours, it wanders wherever your children do.” I think this sums up my feelings perfectly.
3. What habit do you hope to pass down to your kids?
That despite their deepest desires, they will be able to clear their mind and bring themselves to a leveled position that will allow them to make the right decision.
4. What habit do you hope to not pass down to your kids?
Where do I even begin? LOL. But in all seriousness, probably the need for “perfection” – not everything has to be perfect to serve its purpose. There is so much beauty in the imperfect!
5. How have you changed since being a mom?
I have changed a lot. Being a mother is a privilege and I take that role to heart. I no longer think for just myself, I’m thinking for 3 now and it is a very humbling experience. Also, your children learn from observing your body language, your actions and they watch how you speak and how do you treat other people. If we want our children to live by example they have to see it first.
6. What’s the best piece of advice given to you?
You are the only mother that your children know. Don’t be too harsh on yourself if you make a mistake. The kids won’t notice it, only you will know.
7. What are three essentials you need everyday?
Fresh buns for breakfast (that’s the European in me), laundry detergent and water. My kids ask for water in the most inconvenient moments.
8. What late night food do you crave?
9. What do you do to relax?
I read and I like to meditate at Chill Chicago. Yoga Sculpt at Yoga Squad is my non-negotiable. I absolutely need it.
10. How has motherhood changed your career?
The biggest challenge was adjusting my schedule. I limited my time for after work engagements that have meaning to me because my priority is and always will be my kids. Plus I just love spending time with them!
11. 3 words to describe yourself?
Honest to the core. (Okay, that’s four but close enough LOL).
12. How has your style changed since becoming a mother?
My style hasn’t changed much. I love fashion and change my wardrobe pretty often.
13. What traits bug you the most in other mothers?
I don’t like uber controlling helicopter parents. Your children require you to love them, not to constantly correct them. I also don’t like parents who text you every 30 minutes to check how the play date is going.
14. What are 3 things in your bag you couldn’t live without?
My wallet lol
15. Best advice you could give a mom with young kids?
Listen to your body – if you need to sleep, sleep. If you need to cry, cry! Don’t feel guilty for taking time for yourself as your entire family starts with you! You need to be happy and healthy to be there for everyone else. Also, DO NOT compare yourself to other Moms and your kids to theirs. Don’t try to live on their schedule. Live the way that is best for you, listen to your heart – it will guide you properly just take the guilt out of the equation. Remember you will spend the first 12 months of your children’s lives teaching them to walk and talk and the next 12 telling them to sit still and be quiet.
16. If your life had theme music, what would it be?
I go between classical music to hip hop to Polish hits – I guess that’s what life is all about. The notes are always changing.
17. What’s your secret to being a dope ass mom? I just try to listen. In order to be heard, you have to listen. I listen to my kids, my team at work, my friends, teachers, news all that is left afterwards is your interpretation of the current world and how do you want your children to live and be.
18. Nanny, hairstylist or chef? You can only have one live in.Chef!
19. What does success look like to you in parenting?When I hear and see my children stand up for their truth. It brings me to tears. I know that it is hard on them yet they still do it and don’t bend their values to make others comfortable.
20. Kill, Fuck or Marry – Justin Timberlake, Channing Tatum, Ryan Gosling?
None of them lol They are not my type.
21. How do you maintain your identity while still being someone’s mom?
Self discipline!!! It’s very hard but I have amazing friends who are great mothers. They help me remember to be myself. They also have similar needs and together we are stronger.
22. Do you have a favorite child?
My kids are inseparable, they are each other’s biggest fans. I could not just pick 1, I could not live with myself. Favoring one child could affect the other one in ways that could not be reversed and could threaten the balance of the family system.
23. What’s your opinion on screen time?
They get 1 hour per day and they can choose when they want to use it. At the end of the day, the key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.
24. What’s one way you hope to make an impact on your kids?
I want them to live by heart but not compromise their truth to please others. How you impact your children will not only have an influence on them but on everyone that they will meet throughout their life. I also want them to know that it is ok to be sad and to fail and remember that the real value comes from life’s lessons.
25. If you could change one thing about your child’s personality what would it be and why?
That’s such a hard question. I can’t think of anything as it changes so fast. Their little minds absorb everything and adjust. I love the good, the bad and the annoying. If there was anything that anyone wishes to change in their child they should first look and see if it is not something that could be changed in themselves.
26. How has your relationship changed with your higher power since having kids?
It has not changed. They come to church with me now. People Church has an incredible program for kids and teenagers.
27. What would you be doing if you didn’t have kids?
The exact same thing.
28. Do you experience mom guilt? How do you deal with it?
I don’t experience Mom guilt often. I am very aware of how I spend our time together. I know that I am doing my best and I know that they feel it. I can see it in their behavior.
29. If you could change one thing about how society views mother’s, what would it be?
Just be more polite and patient to the Moms or women in general. They are already doing so much. Open the doors for them, if they drop something pick it up, help them if you see them in distress – just be a well rounded person. Manners matter!